How to be a good husband

Qualities and habits:    How to be a good husband 

Everyone wants to be perfect in every relationship. Whenever we start any relationship it’s our duty to give it our 100%. Start it whole heartedly and give the best version of ourselves. This world is surrounded by do respect and have respect so we should do respect in order to have respect.

Qualities of a good husband:

A good husband possess these qualities.

Understand her feelings:

You support your family, you should know that a woman is also a human being. She also has a desire, right to freedom and enjoy her life. She get married to you and coming into your life with so many expectations and dreams. She left her family for you and it’s totally a new environment for her. Man should take care of her, feelings ( liking and disliking) and her desires.

Not hiring a servant:

Man should understand that he is not hiring a servant but it is a selection of a partner, soulmate and friend to live whole life with. Man is not the owner of his wife but the companion taking care of her desires. Wife has certain rights upon her husband.

Be Loving towards Her:

Man should get this thing straight that a woman is a center of kindness and attention. Her existence depends on your compassion and affection. She is very sensitive and emotional your care, love and attention can make him love you more. She longs to be loved. If she realizes nobody loves her she will be shattered consider herself a looser. She would feel rejected, disappointed and disheartening
So the secret of a happy married life and key to be a good husband is his expression of love towards his wife.

Knowing the background:

Your wife before marriage was enjoying independent and life with no responsibilities. Love and care of parents, cousins, friends and siblings. When she said yes to marry you she expect the same affection and love from you. She trusted you with this so why she said yes for marriage don’t let her down. she expects marriage is the expression of your affection to her.

Strengthen the bond:

If you want her to love you, remain faithful towards you and obedient, you have to conquer her heart in order to win her heart you need to show affection and love to her. Your little act of care and kindness will comes back to you. Express your love, appreciate her and encourage her.

Don’t deprive  her:

Do not deprive her of your kindness and care. If you’ll do so she will lose interest in you, in her house and children. She would feel belittle, unloved and insulted. She hates who try to degrade her.
Results would be:
House would be messy
No taste in food
No cleanliness
No efforts
She will become sick or ill ( health issues nervous breakdown)
Cold behavior
In short you have failed to keep her content and happy. You shouldn’t overlook the mental status of your women and pay heed to the psychological requirement of affection and attention. Your wife expect you to respect her more than anybody else and her life partner, friend to take good care of her.

Value her efforts: 

She takes care of you, house and family. Value her efforts and respect her for her time and efforts. Appreciating her efforts and encouragement wouldn’t belittle you but it’s a sign of your love and care. In return she will do more efforts. Talk to her politely. Do not shout at her or insult her in front of others not even in jokes. Call her with loving names. If you’ll respect her she will do the same.

Do not degrade in gatherings: 

In gatherings respect her. Talk to her nicely. Don not criticize or make fun of her in front of people. Do not joke about her. Avoid all kind of insults and humiliation. Do not think she is too close to you and she would not mind any kind of abuse or teasing in a joke. She will dislike such a attitude but maybe she don’t express it. She will remember this jokingly teasing and this bomb will explode anytime.

Be supportive:

Every girl has a passion or a dream. Help her pursue her dream and passion be supportive. Give her enough confidence. Trust her and involve her in your major decisions.

Habits:

These are the habits of a good husband:

Inform her while Going out of city:

Do not leave the contact while traveling or going out of city. Keep in touch. Do let her know when you enter the city that you’re coming back. Inform her before arriving home. Give her time to get ready. 

Enter home with a smile and in a good mood:

Whenever you’re back from work always greet your wife nicely. Kiss her and hug her. Say Salam to her. Say good bye when leaving the house and kiss her or hug her.
You can not blame your wife and children for the mishaps or loss. When you come back home never vent out your anger on your wife and children. You enter your home as if hitler is at home. Everyone is quiet and hiding themselves. Not talking to you but avoiding you. Whole family is standing on a single feet like a punishment around you and worried about the salt of your food, noisy background, untidy things anything can flare you up. Trying hard not to give you any excuse to get angry. You angrily shouting at everybody soon you back home then they’ll wish you come home late so that they can have more hours of freedom and tension free life.One should overcome all difficulties with patience and wisdom. He shouldn’t lose control in difficulty. Resulting in shouting at everybody.Take your family seriously even anger is not good for your health as well. You would be called bad tempered by your family and they would hate you for not understanding their feelings. Don’t be a weak person that can not keep any problem to themselves. Don’t be such a pessimist. If you’ll not see anything good around you’ll suffer yourself and let your family suffer as well.
Who ever is more well behaved have more faith in God. The best one among you is the one who is good to his family.
There is no deed better than a good behavior

pick up Quarrels:

Some men are always complaining about life and their misfortune. they always seek faults and excuses to start a argument. They discuss about every little matter. They’re so judge mental like why this table is dirty, why clothes are not arranged, why lunch is not ready, why is that case there, how many times I have to tell you this, this attitude causes fights one should be easy going and lenient. Two people living in the house so you share responsibilities if you find anything missing you can correct it yourself.
If you continue this behavior even your family would not take your seriously they’ll say it’s your habit. They will even ignore your main concerns even by saying that he is never happy so why to put extra efforts. It’s useless he will never appreciate anything. Family would show retaliation.

Let her run the house the way she wants:

Every women has her own way to manage house. Remember it’s her area let her do things in her own way. Don't try to turn them into puppet. Let them run the house the way they like it’s the wise decision. In this way she would do it enthusiastically..

Empathy:

When your wife is sad or angry about a thing then try to be empathetic and put yourself in her shoes. Try to be the first to greet her with smile. Be careful not to offend her in anyway. If she is not in the mood to talk don not tease her. When she feels like talking listen to her show your concern
Let her heart out. Be kind and polite. Advice her the best solution with logic and wisdom. Encourage her to be patient and regard her problems as trivial. Strengthen her character and assist her in overcoming the problems.
If you won’t be empathetic you both will suffer.

Never be influenced:

Soon after marriage one gets too much busy in understanding and loving a new person. Wife draws much of his attention. His family like sister and mother might feel jealous of his wife. They prevent their love to grow and try to influence the man. He might even be influenced by his mother’s defamatory statements. He would this way lose interest in his wife. Husband would not forgive in her small mistakes and create a scene. This way she will become more disobedient.the influence might make the men not trusting their wives and doubting their intentions.

Never doubt your wife. Give her the benefit of doubt. Do not try to gather evidences against her. Observing her closely.Following her everywhere. Doubting her sincerity.

Be a helping hand in house:

Take part in house chores be a helping hand. It’s not fair a man sits around the house idly while his wife remains busy in so much work like washing clothes, utensils, cleaning house, ironing clothes, arranging wardrobes. Cooking for everyone. He should help his wife as much as possible whenever he can. He shouldn’t be ordering her wife while sitting on sofa not moving around watching tv and using mobile. Get up and move it’s good for your body too. This help is a sign of affection and care towards one's wife and family. It’s a mutual cooperation. Do not think that working at home is degrading don’t make it a matter of your ego or self respect in fact through your assistance, your wife would be more loving and obedient.

Take care of your personal hygiene: 

Husband expect her wife  to look tidy and beautiful at home, then be sure that she expects the same from you. She, too, hates the dirty, stinky and untidy husband. She also likes to see you clean and smart.

Take care of her health:

Take care of her health whenever she is sick. Take her to doctor. Take a very good care of her. Be kind and optimistic. When she is pregnant she is more emotional and sensitive be supportive and understand her mood swings. She only want you attention, care and love. Be there for her.

Be responsible:

 Man is responsible to provide his wife with food and clothing, and pocket money. It’s his duty to pay for the expenses of his wife such as food, clothes, house, doctor, and medicine.

In short praising her and be thankful to her for her efforts makes you the perfect mix.