How to be a good wife

Qualities and Habits - How to be a good wife

Everyone wants to be perfect in all relationships. Whenever it comes to talk about any relationship just give your best. Don’t expect too much give your 100% always remain calm, quiet, patient and tolerant. Newly wed girls are always in depression or pressure while getting married. This is a changing phase of their lives. They get too much sensitive and emotional. Worrying about new life and responsibilities. So girls don’t worry at all. Every girl will go through this you’re not alone. We all are together. Just have faith and trust. Welcome new changes and challenges with big heart and be optimistic. Get ready for giving your best.
Now coming towards the topic In this blog we will focus on good habits, daily routine
and qualities of a good wife.

How to be a good wife:

In order to be a good wife you need to have a good routine. You need to adopt good habits.

Habits:

You need to develop these habits.

Morning shower:

First of all wake up early in the morning.

Take bath daily do not wash your hair daily just wash your body.

If you dont like to take bath  or weather is cold you can skip it.It's totally up to you. 

Personal hygiene:

After taking shower moisturize your body or put scented oil ( coconut and olive oil)
Brush your teeth and use listerine. There should be no bad breadth.

Clean your environment:

Clean your room arrange your bed sheet and comforters. Your room would look messy if your bed is not arranged.
If something is fallen down pick it up and arrange it on its place
Clothes you were wearing before shower put it in laundary basket.

Empty your dust bin. Throw the trash in your main dust bin outside your room.
Always keep a plastic bag inside your dustbin so that its easy to throw the plastic bag in order to empty your dust bin
Always prefer using a dust bin with a cover, lid or cap so that there is no stink and trash remain invisible inside the bin
You can use a bakhoor, air refreshner or room diffusor for a short while
Dim or off the lights of your room as it is morning and daylight is there
Then finally move out of your room

Self grooming:

You can touch up a little bit like a lip and cheek tint gloss or lipstick according to your choice put kajal if it suits you.
Wear a nice mild frangrance or roll on.
You can even use a scented powder

Greeting:

These things are very important as clean mind, body and room will make your heart and mind peaceful

When you go out of your room greet everyone good morming and ask how about breakfast?
Start your day like this it will make your good image in front of your family members that you’re very clean and an organized lady

Breakfast:

Start your day with a healthy heavy breakfast
After breakfast drink your hot drink or milk whatever you prefer
Try to eat breakfast and hot drink together with family.

Lunch preparation:

Start getting the basic things ready for lunch

You can prepare things for lunch like:
Onion cutting
Ginger garlic paste
Tomatoes cutting or peeling however you prefer

Green chillies cutting

Cutting and making vegetable
If youre cooking meat put it out from fridge in water
If you plan to cook rice take it out either you dip it in water or later it’s your choice
Cover all the things dont let them open

Cleaning the mess: 

Clean the unnecessary mess
You can put onions, tomatoes, green chillies, ginger garlic paste on a cutting board or in a large tray for less mess and less utensils to be washed
After completing these tasks
You can carry out things you like
Spending time with family, talking, sitting with them. Whatever the routie is
So when there comes time for lunch your all things will be done and ready for final touch
This way less stress and you will feel like a chef everything is ready for mixing hehe..... cook your lunch

Things to do: 

We need to focus on good qualities to be a good wife:

Ignore all the unnecaessary gossips
If anybody taunt you or criticise you take criticism positively
Always have a big smile on your face
Dont take negative comments seriously
Always be quiet and calm
Do not show them a reaction
Try to understand things with other’s point of view
Keep yourself at their place have empathy
Ignore small things
Do not dignify their negativity with a reaction
Tolerate things and try to be happy ultimately your all efforts will be fruitful

Manners: 

After lunch do not go to anybody's room unnecessary give them privacy and time to take some rest
Whenever you go to somebody's room always knock the door and if there is no answer do not mind it.Let them take some rest
Before sleeping close the door arrange your bedsheet again you can use humidifier, diffuser or air freshner
Brush your teeth
Wash your face and hands if possible feet you will feel relaxed with washed feets apply moisturizer or olive oil and cocomut oil
Use powder brush your teeth
And have a safe and sound sleep

Qualities:

  Whenever your husband or in-laws give you something be grateful.
Whenever you’re deprived be patient
Your husband should feel happy when he looks at you, and try to be obedient
If you’re instructed to do something try to be submissive.
A wife who gives him comfort when he sees her, and he feels joy in his heart when she is around, she fills his house and his life with ease, joy and happiness
It is to a woman to present herself available to her husband whether it is day or night
Women who is patient and constant is always successful

Life is not like before:

Once you are married, then you cannot live the same lifestyle you had enjoyed when you were single. Less “me-time” because you have to put the needs of your family first before your need for parties, shopping, and hanging out with cousins and friends

Respect your husband:

Your  personalities, views, and principles might differ from each other even then you have to respect your husband—like you want to be respected same way. Yes, you can point out your ideas, but never ever impose that you are right and he is wrong, or call him mad or stupid.

Never speak bad or make him feel embarrass: 

 Never embarrass him in public, particularly in front of your family or his, his friends especially in front of your children. Never back bite about him. Keep his secrets.

Give your 100%:

Give your 100% by serving him wholeheartedly. I am not promoting slavery it’s just that if you have said yes for a relationship give your best. Try to accept each other’s imperfections.Nobody on earth is  perfect in order to be with someone you have to overlook things.In any relation on earth we ignore imperfections we can see in our relationships with siblings, cousins, friends, and family there are so many things we don’t like about them still we overlook and ignore them to be together because we love them. Same with marriage. Don’t lower yourself to the level of a slave, but initiating a selfless relationship.

Try to cook him his favorite dish, 

Sometimes give him a massage, 

Arrange and prepare his attire for work the next day,

Making him a cup of coffee/ tea every morning
Don’t over burden yourself with these responsibilities but if you’ll do little act of kindness and care it will come back to you.

Give him space: 

Have you ever get irritated by your parents when you were a kid? It was annoying, right? Your husband feels the same every time you nag him about every little thing he does—him leaving his dirty socks, towel or clothes lying around, forgetting about picking up grocery item or your orders, and so on. Instead of bothering him with sermons, why not talk to him sensibly about your concerns to avoid fights. Try to make him understand things politely and be kind
If he wants to spend or contribute financially to his family do not feel bad or interfere much
Give him privacy for a short while when he is with his mother, brother and sister.

Accepting flaws:

You should understand that both of you are not perfect so the best thing to do is help each other become better. Instead of pointing out flaws and mentioning it every time. Thinking that he is not the right guy for you.

Forgive and forget:

Control your anger and reactions. Forgive and forget each other’s mistakes as you both are not perfect. Give them enough space to breath and be lenient with them. Over look their mistakes.

In addition, the next time you fight, stop bringing past issues since you have already forgiven

Respect his relatives: 

Respect his family, especially his parents; show kindness to them. Always greet them with a big smile. Be helpful, positive and caring towards them

By adopting these habits and qualities you can be a perfect wife.