Jealousy and Relationships

 Jealousy is a destructive emotion it can suffocate a happy relationship. It can make you experience a lot of feelings like a roller coaster from insecurity to rejection and other various feelings like anger, anxiety, fear, suspicion it takes away your peace of mind.
Jealous people: people are mostly jealous of somebody when they’re not happy with their lives.
Feelings: There comes a lot of irrational thoughts in your mind. You feel a sense of insecurity and rejected. You feel nobody love you. It’s very painful feeling. You constantly think about the qualities of other person ( you’re jealous of ) this feeling makes you feel depress and isolated. It ruins your relationships.
Ways to control your jealousy:
1- Self awareness that is try to become aware of your feelings and start to think what is the cause, what is making you feel this way. What triggers your anger or insecurity. Try setting aside a little time when you’re not feeling emotional and sensitive. Allow your mind to process the information in order to address the issue related to jealousy and accept you are jealous.
2- Acceptance that is If you can’t control anything accept it try to remain positive and optimistic.
3- Remain Busy try to make your self busy in your own life and stuff. You’re always jealous when you’re not happy with your life and you’ve so much time thinking about others opinions and lifestyle try to do things you love. Indulge yourself in something productive and constructive. Learn new skills. Polish your character. Pamper yourself.
4- Be confident try to love yourself be confident that you’re not inferior. God loves you a lot. God didn’t create anything useless. You’re too good on your own way. Maintain your individuality.
5-No comparison you can only be happy if you stop comparing yourself to others. You cannot judge a fish by its ability to climb or you can sit compare apple and oranges you need to understand everyone is different in his own way. You’ve your own unique qualities and abilities.Always look down always focus on people less fortunate or less blessed than you. You’ll realize how lucky and blessed you’re. You should smile more and have a big heart. Don’t let the negative thoughts ruin your mood or day. Don’t let your imagination drives you crazy remember destructive use of imagination can take you nowhere. Think about things that make you feel happy, blessed and lucky.
6- Thankful always always remain thankful to God and people it makes you humble, polite and happy ultimately
7- Communicate your feelings vent out let your heart out with your mother or any trustworthy friend discuss your feelings if you don’t trust anyone just write down your feelings somewhere and tear the paper later. Another mind can counsel you better more mind more ideas you can process the information and you’ll get to know other point of view and ideas regarding your situation it would help your mind think differently you can discuss any problem with me even I am always there for you to counsel you and guide you consider me your best friend.
8- Consider talking to a counselor it could be anyone personal or professional
9- Your things are always yours nobody can take them away from you that is meant to be yours can find you anywhere. Believe in yourself, trust God and control your feelings try to remain quiet if you are feeling anything destructive let it pass. Keep it in your mind you’re the best and you should be positive about your surroundings and keep smiling.
10- Don’t act on your feelings, don’t over react try to remain passive and express your jealousy in a soft way. Appreciate yourself. Understanding the roots, triggers and reasons of your jealousy is a vital part of your personal growth always make a conscious effort to heal your old wounds and think Before you utter a word try hard to remain calm and quiet just suppress your negative thoughts and feel good about yourself
Jealous person is like this candle if you’ll not control your feelings it will ruin your peace of mind and make you depress and leave you ultimately in darkness