Over reaction and it’s control

Today’s blog topic is over reacting and how to control this. Why do people over react? Why we are sensitive? Well it’s ok to be emotional and sensitive but the point to ponder is how often does this type of thing happen? What does it usually take for you to react? Today we will think back to the times we have over reacted, figure out what caused it this would give us a clear picture of the root cause. If we are over reacting at times it’s perfectly normal but if we are always over reacting here comes a problem.Reactive nature blocks reason we don’t listen to others.we are unable to separate or forget our past. We can not say things with love and care. Our goal should be respond not react.

Feelings of a reactive person:

They are too much emotional and sensitive
They’re living in past and live in past and present both
Over think about situation that is not up to their expectations
They think it always happen to me, I have such a bad luck
You’re living in a perfectionist world where nothing can be wrong

Causes of over reactions:

It depends on whether you have strong reaction towards criticism or you can’t see anyone doing wrong and you want to correct it yourself and sometimes punish him for his wrong doing.
You’re living in a perfectionist world where everything around you is perfect everyone is good and when you see anything wrong ( not up to your expectations) you don’t know what to do with the flood of your emotions and you over react.
A lot of things can cause or trigger your anger
1- Past experiences
2- Death of a loved one
3- Divorce of parents
4- comparisons
5- New born siblings ( taken all the attention)
Once we get to know the real situation where you over react we can analyze it better.

Identify your triggers: 

All of us have our triggers that can make us to over react at times. We need to learn those triggers so that we can control our emotions. When the button is pushed. Some people over react when they work real hard still someone criticize them. Some people over react when someone compare them with others and belittle them. Sometimes rejections or feeling inferior.

Disadvantages of over reacting: 

Over reacting can affect our happiness to the point that it  makes us unable to do things we like.
It creates more stress and anxiety in life.
It makes us hyper focused on ourself and own emotions.
You hurt people.
You need to opologise to them.
You make the situation worse.
People will always remember your over reaction.

Treatment :

You pay heed to all these points and act upon it. You’re only responsible for your reactions so take care of it. What people telling you it’s on their shoulder. Just watch your reactions don’t care about their actions. Let them not play with your emotions or control you by their actions.
1-Take yourself out of your own mind think about how other people might feel about your over reaction.
2-People will provoke you until they bring out your ugly side, then play victim when you go there. people want your reactions and use it for their benefits don’t give them this advantage. Don’t signify them with a reaction. Don’t entertain them.
3-Over reaction most times lead to unfavorable consequences ( Toni Payne)
4-You’ll be mature when you’ll realize every situation doesn’t need a reaction. Sometimes you just have to leave people to do the things they do.
5-We often add to our pain and suffering by being overly sensitive, over reacting to minor things, sometimes taking things too personally (Dalai lama )
6-Don’t let your emotions put weight your intelligence.
7-It’s not our stress that kills us it’s our reaction to it ( Dr. Hans Selye)
8-Today may we choose peace over chaos, respect over belittling, thoughtfulness over reactions, faith over fear and others over ourselves ( Mark Charles )
9-By your over reaction you only show your stupidity in front of many ( Drish)
10-Strong feelings are fine; it’s the over reactions that mess us up ( Albert Ellis)
11-Not every time that you over react has a positive cause. Maybe once in your lifetime, someone must have been hurt because of it ( Surabhi pandey)
12-Not everything requires your reaction ( Ketan Chhatbar )
13-Never over react on any situation, it may spoil your whole image in front of others ( Sachin Kekarjawalekar )
14-Feelings are drama queen of our brain and has a bad habit of over reacting. People who over react are also called drama queen so stop being center of attention of people in a way that they make fun of you or laugh at you.
Keep all these fourteen points in your mind while reacting to any situation it’s not your duty to say whatever you feel or let your heart out and open up with everyone not everyone deserve your reaction. Sometimes let it go and forgive them anyway and keep quiet. Ignore it’s not good to reply at every person ( incase they hurt you forgive them have a big heart ) that throw stones at you if you’ll do so you’ll waste your time and energy. Be good with them anyway for the sake of God. You’ll have a peace of mind and contentment.